Not knowing is sometimes worst than knowing. It keeps your mind guessing. You hope for something that might not be there anymore. In short it will make you go crazy. I think it is rude, whether you are the one doing this or you are on the receiving end. We can always choose the compassionate path, by being honest with one another and speaking the truth with love. No pretense, no going around bush, just pure, simple, honest words.
Oh how we can make simple things complicated and straight lines crooked! Life is simple and uncomplicated when live in truth and love.