Our Posture On Courtship

Courtship requires openness. 

For the sisters, it means openness to be pursued. It cannot be openness but showing an uninterested face. We are not saying you will be lying to yourself but simply allowing the other to be, showing honor and respect.  Give him the openness of friendship. Even if you cannot really see yourself with him at the onset, at least honor his desire to love you and respect his intention to court you. Then after giving time and still you cannot see yourself with him, graciously say “no” to the love he is offering, with love, honor and respect.  I’m telling you, it will go a long way.

If the answer is yes, then continue the openness. Love is honest and it will not only save relationship, it makes it flourish.

For the brothers, be open to all possibilities while doing your best with pure and honest intention you have. Honor her desire to be pursued and respect her answer whatever it may be, then accept the outcome with love, honor and respect. Even if the answer is “no”, it will make a man out of you. I’m telling you, it will go a long way.

If the answer is yes, then be consistent and honor whatever promises you made. Never stop courting. The goal should be marriage.

Giving gifts in courtship is good but it cannot go far enough. Far better is pure, honest and honorable intention.

Intention is far important than gifts. Gifts come only after, as manifestations of it.

by aats